I always encourage my couples to have as much input as they wish into creating their wedding ceremony and will provide you with lots of ideas for finding just the right words. Here is a sample of the most popular style of ceremony.

I am delighted to be asked to officiate today and to welcome you all to share and celebrate with this couple as they exchange their wedding vows and cement their love for each other.
 
This ceremony is not magic. It cannot create something that does not already exist.  Throughout the years of their relationship these two have grown together as a couple and this marriage is a celebration of their love and commitment to each other for the future.
 
It is the next step in their relationship and they are declaring to the world and to each other that this is the one person who they trust with all their heart and want to spend the rest of their life with.
 
Nothing is easier than saying words, and nothing is harder than living them day after day.  What you promise today must be renewed tomorrow.  At the conclusion of this ceremony, you will be legally, husband and wife.  But each and every day you must re-dedicate yourselves to each other so that your marriage may continue to grow and not lose any of it’s passion.
 
Although your love for each other binds you together without the need for spoken words, in making your vows here today you affirm them both publicly and legally.  Today you are not losing your freedom, but you are gaining an ally, a partner for life who will stand by you through thick and thin, not being judgemental but supporting your choices, your dreams and your goals.  A marriage is a partnership based on love, trust and respect; it is not ownership or control.
 
The Vows
Knowing that the magic and mystery of marriage will continually challenge, surprise and delight you and that understanding forgiveness and unconditional love will be required of you both, do you still choose to make the promises of marriage?
 
According to New Zealand law you are required to make your vows to each other in the presence of witnesses.  Please face each other as you read the vows you have written:
 
I take you to be my lawful wife.  I will share your laughter and your tears as your life partner, lover and best friend, your ally in conflict, your partner in adventure, your consolation in the tough times and your accomplice in mischief.  As I give you my hand to hold, so I give you my life to keep.
 
 
The Rings
Words are powerful but fleeting and the sound of them is soon gone.  The wedding rings are the only physical symbols you take away from the ceremony that signify that something significant and meaningful has taken place.  Wear your rings with respect and pride and let them remind you of the incredible happiness you feel on this day and of your vows and commitment to each other.  Wedding rings are traditionally worn on the third finger of the left hand, as in olden times it was believed that a vein ran from that finger directly to your hearts.
 
Please take the ring for your bride and place it on the third finger of her left hand with these words:
I give you this ring with love and I give you my heart with trust.
 
As these rings have no beginning and no end, they symbolise your ongoing love and commitment for each other.  May your relationship become stronger with each passing year and may you have a long and happy life together.  By my authority as a registered Marriage Celebrant, I now pronounce you to be husband and wife.
 
You may kiss your bride!
 
Conclusion
You have given each other the most precious gift of love.  Treasure it, nurture it and encourage it with all the honesty you used in creating it.  Remember that you are now each other’s life partner.  Stand together for each other always.